“I didn’t have gold shoes, and I didn’t have time to go shopping, but I thought I could just spray-paint some heels I owned that I never really wore. I spray-painted them and tried them out for three hours at church where they held up perfectly. I felt pretty good about myself. ‘Suckers who buy gold shoes when they could just spray-paint them,’ I thought, congratulating myself for my frugality and my foresight for testing them out…”
As moms, we improvise. We get along. We make things work. And we make a lot of things up as we go along because, let’s face it, no manual is ever going to cover all the bases a real mom needs to touch. But if laughter and perspective and a renewed energy to face the day are what you’re after—if you too are a “real mom”—this is the book for you!
Lisa Valentine Clark, best known as Gracie from the award-winning webseries “Pretty Darn Funny,” knows that if you’re going to be a mom, you’d better have a sense of humor. However, if you’re having one of those days and being a mom doesn’t seem like a laughing matter, don’t worry. Clark has a little humor — and welcome encouragement — to spare.
Clark insists that “real moms” are just making it up as we go along, and she’s right. She points out what every mom of more than one child has discovered: what works for one child doesn’t necessarily work for another, and even what USED to work for that child might not work anymore in a few years. The reason kids don’t come with an instruction manual is because each child would require his own, and it would be quite a lengthy book, indeed.
Clark warns against taking sides in the Mommy Wars as well as comparing yourself to others. Isn’t it funny how we, as mothers, can be so judgmental on the one hand and so insecure on the other? Instead, she says, lower the bar and be awesome. Although the advice seems contradictory, it makes perfect sense. You don’t need to be a perfect mother; you just have to be the perfect mother for your children. The key, Clark points out, is to just love them.
That is the advice that my own mother gave me when I became a mom, and it’s the best advice I could have been given. Sometimes, when you face a challenging situation, you get to the bottom of your parenting toolbox to find that love is all you have left. Now, as I am entering the “Mysterious Older Woman” phase of motherhood, I’ve come to realize that it is always enough.
Real Moms is funny, inspiring, and helpful. It’s a great book that I highly recommend for mothers of any age, at any stage of their parenting.
About the Author:
Lisa Valentine Clark graduated with a B.S. in English from Brigham Young University. She was part of the sketch/comedy troupe “The Garrens” in Provo from 1995 to 2000, and co-founded the theater-as-improv troupe “The Thrillionaires.” She has done a variety of voiceover and acting work in independent features, including “Gracie” in the award-winning webseries “Pretty Darn Funny,” which she also writes and produces. Lisa spends most of her time in Provo with her husband, Christopher Clark. They are the parents of five children who seem to make up a unique comedy troupe all their own.